The most important thing you must do as a young man is look at your own father and see his failings and make a mental note that you most likely have the same predilections, and as a result must consciously go to war against those urges inside you. Whether that's pushing down on the gas pedal for too long, not long enough, etc., you need to be extra self-aware and wise. And, unlike the history of most of white people, you do not really have older people teaching you how to do this, why to do this, etc.