If you create goals for yourself that have friction with your values, you're going to self-sabotage or feel guilty about your progress. For example, if your family is a high priority, but you set high financial goals for yourself then there is friction between those two goals.
(Note: this is basically identity-based habits. You can't have friction between your identity and your goals.)
Design the life you want first and the business you want second. Most people choose a career before thinking about what kind of life they want to build.
(Note: great idea. Even better idea might be to test lifestyles. Try one project in various “lives” and see which you enjoy most. Write a book (author), show a photo project in a gallery (photographer), etc.)
The Law of Attraction is simply directing your attention toward something that was already there.
Write down your most important goals.
When you set a goal, most people ask, “What do I need to do to achieve your goal?” Instead, you should ask “Who do I need to become?”
What is your entertainment vs. education ratio? The top 20% of people spend their time focused on education.
Stop watching the news. The news just aggregates the worst, saddest, and most stressful stories every day.
If there is a difference between what you say and what you do, then your behavior is the winner.
Identify your triggers for your bad habits: the who, what, where, and when that prompts you to start your bad habits.
Start by eliminating your triggers. Throw out junk food, etc.
Stop lying and justifying hard choices by saying things like, “It's not fair for everyone to avoid sweets just because I don't want to eat sweets.”
Dean Ornish study found it was easier for people to ditch lots of bad habits at the same time.
Any new habit has to work inside your current life and lifestyle. The gym can't be out of the way. It has to be on the way.
Montell Williams has an add-in principle where he focuses on adding something in to his life rather than what he is cutting out or sacrificing.
Hardy recommends using a Seinfeld calendar for public accountability too. Hangout in the office, etc. so other people can see it.
Be patient. You've spent years repeating bad behaviors. It's going to take years to build good ones.
Momentum is huge. Objects in motion tend to stay in motion.
The hardest part of momentum is the beginning. But like pushing the merry-go-round on the playground… Once you get moving you can keep going very easily.
With momentum, you can continue succeeding with less work. It's easy to keep things running once you have momentum.
Jack Nicklaus had a repeated pre-shot routine that he did the same way over and over again.
A psychologist tracked his pre-shot time for every shot at a tournament and it never wavered by more than one second. Set yourself up for success.
Book end your days. You can always ensure how your day starts and ends. Finish your most important tasks first.
Review your day each evening.
Commit to doing a relationship review each weekend. Cover what went well in your marriage that week. Rank your relationship on a scale of 1-10 over the last week and then ask what could get it to a 10.
“Anyone can fall in love. Falling in love is easy. Staying in love takes real work.”
When you lose two weeks of work, you don't just lose the work you would have done. You also lose momentum and that is the bigger problem.
Garbage in, garbage out. Don't waste your time watching TV, eating junk, reading useless stuff, consuming negative stories, and more.
Who is on your personal board of advisors? Who are the 10-12 experts you get advice from?
The best people hire the best coaches. Harvey McKay had 20 coaches. A speech coach, writing coach, humor coach, etc.
What are you willing to tolerate? If you tolerate people being late that is what you'll get. If you tolerate earning less than what you're worth, that's what you'll earn.
(Note: this is basically identity-based habits. You can't have friction between your identity and your goals.)
Design the life you want first and the business you want second. Most people choose a career before thinking about what kind of life they want to build.
(Note: great idea. Even better idea might be to test lifestyles. Try one project in various “lives” and see which you enjoy most. Write a book (author), show a photo project in a gallery (photographer), etc.)
The Law of Attraction is simply directing your attention toward something that was already there.
Write down your most important goals.
When you set a goal, most people ask, “What do I need to do to achieve your goal?” Instead, you should ask “Who do I need to become?”
What is your entertainment vs. education ratio? The top 20% of people spend their time focused on education.
Stop watching the news. The news just aggregates the worst, saddest, and most stressful stories every day.
If there is a difference between what you say and what you do, then your behavior is the winner.
Identify your triggers for your bad habits: the who, what, where, and when that prompts you to start your bad habits.
Start by eliminating your triggers. Throw out junk food, etc.
Stop lying and justifying hard choices by saying things like, “It's not fair for everyone to avoid sweets just because I don't want to eat sweets.”
Dean Ornish study found it was easier for people to ditch lots of bad habits at the same time.
Any new habit has to work inside your current life and lifestyle. The gym can't be out of the way. It has to be on the way.
Montell Williams has an add-in principle where he focuses on adding something in to his life rather than what he is cutting out or sacrificing.
Hardy recommends using a Seinfeld calendar for public accountability too. Hangout in the office, etc. so other people can see it.
Be patient. You've spent years repeating bad behaviors. It's going to take years to build good ones.
Momentum is huge. Objects in motion tend to stay in motion.
The hardest part of momentum is the beginning. But like pushing the merry-go-round on the playground… Once you get moving you can keep going very easily.
With momentum, you can continue succeeding with less work. It's easy to keep things running once you have momentum.
Jack Nicklaus had a repeated pre-shot routine that he did the same way over and over again.
A psychologist tracked his pre-shot time for every shot at a tournament and it never wavered by more than one second. Set yourself up for success.
Book end your days. You can always ensure how your day starts and ends. Finish your most important tasks first.
Review your day each evening.
Commit to doing a relationship review each weekend. Cover what went well in your marriage that week. Rank your relationship on a scale of 1-10 over the last week and then ask what could get it to a 10.
“Anyone can fall in love. Falling in love is easy. Staying in love takes real work.”
When you lose two weeks of work, you don't just lose the work you would have done. You also lose momentum and that is the bigger problem.
Garbage in, garbage out. Don't waste your time watching TV, eating junk, reading useless stuff, consuming negative stories, and more.
Who is on your personal board of advisors? Who are the 10-12 experts you get advice from?
The best people hire the best coaches. Harvey McKay had 20 coaches. A speech coach, writing coach, humor coach, etc.
What are you willing to tolerate? If you tolerate people being late that is what you'll get. If you tolerate earning less than what you're worth, that's what you'll earn.